Formula For Handling Opinions

Constructive Feedback

As a lifelong learner, I am always interested in constructive feedback.  Sometimes, that’s how great ideas are born!  And, it’s also a big part of the coaching process.

The quote above reminds me of too many incidents of unsolicited opinions in my own life to possibly count.  I am sure every one of us can say the same.

Opinions

It, also, brings to mind a recent conversation with a professional from a different field.  This person felt it was appropriate to spew unsolicited opinions about my professional endeavors.   Internally, I knew it seemed odd for someone with little knowledge of my business to be so bold.  But, I decided to hear her out.

Decision Time

As the conversation continued, I kept my mouth shut and listened.  I truly wanted to hear this unusual point-of-view.  Afterwards, I reviewed the conversation in my mind, considered the feedback, and decided to discard the empty words.  Had she offered me something concrete to think about, it would have made sense to spend a few minutes in contemplation.  However, her comments had no meat (even after I questioned her).  I, certainly, would not have changed my business based on this person’s idle opinion.

Toxic Relationships

I have no idea what prompted the person to share her opinion with me.   It’s irrelevant.  I hold no animosity toward her.  Rather, I felt pleased that she was comfortable enough to be up front with me.  (If you’re wondering if there could have been malicious intent, of course there could have been.  See my blog post on toxic friendships.  Uninvited put-downs, disguised as opinions, can be harmful to the psyche if we are not careful to guard our minds.)

My example is somewhat simplistic and, since I did not rely on the other person’s opinion, the consequences were null.   However, many times in life, we will turn to friends and family in times of stress and need and end up being led by their opinions only to regret it later.

Formula for Handling Opinions

In times like those, it’s important to be able to take a step back to think for yourself.  (Consider journaling to sort out your thoughts.)  Otherwise, you end up living someone else’s life.  Take a second now to reflect on that.  How many times have you ignored your gut instinct in favor of following the opinions of others?  Study the quote above.  It’s a key secret to a life of EXCELLENCE!

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